Stockholm Syndrome

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Sometimes we never realize how much we have changed until one of our closest person woke us up.
I think everybody who knows me clearly understand how much I love Sweden since the first time I came here. He said that I was struck by a disease called "Stockholm Syndrome". I heard it before but I am not really sure, so I searched again.
the first hit you will find in Google probably be on this link: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stockholm_syndrome


 But in summary, here is a simple sentence that could sum it up:
"Stockholm was a unique situation. It occurred at around the time when we were starting to see more hostage situations and maybe people didn't want to take away something that we might see again." (http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-22447726)

 Yeah, probably he was right.

 When I stepped back and think about that, what the hell I am doing here actually.
I am 10,000km away from my blood family whom always take care of me very well!!!
I had to break up with my boyfriend, lose my best friends, (yeah, we didn't have a fight, but it comes naturally! when you were in nowhere to be seen in a long time!)
I have to take care of my own alone.


But it just feels right... at least for now.
People only see the good things that are happened to me. because I do not want my beloved people worry about me. But deep inside..... I have never been this strong, until being strong is the only options that I have.
Hahaha... sounds pathetic, buat actually, as I said before. I also enjoy it. Nah, more confusing! hahaha....

 I like one of my friends' saying here in Sweden who seemed like to experience the similar thing with me :
"Gue udah gak tau lagi lah sama hidup gue..."
Indonesian sentence for "Let it flow...."





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