Noone has to be good to you

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For some people, living in this world is so hard to do.
For introverts, this world is too noisy.
For extroverts...? I don't know because I am not one, maybe you all need more energy from us?

However, I realise that this world owes nothing to us. We owe them instead.
So nobody is obliged to be kind to you.

If some people hurt you, and you hurt them back, do you think it is equal?
I do not think so. I do not think deep inside our pure heart, hurting others can feel our pain.
It can generate more pain for ourself.

Whenever people do bad things to me, it hurts of course.
But I try to remember that hurting them back does not worth my peaceful mind.

I did this many times, not because I was too noble.
Just because I did not have any other options and voodoo was not an option at that time.
So I let it go...

Somehow I think the universe works perfectly fair.

They give me a better one.

When someone tried to steal my job,  I let him take it, I got a better offer instead, plus a better manager...
I still remember when I was a newbie, the IT guy gave me the newest model and a senior got jealous and ask the IT guy to exchange the laptop with me.
yeah, that is how cheap the person that I dealt with.

Laptop does not define your brain. I have been travelling around the world, he is still there until now.

I choose my competition.

I believe when I realise that nobody has to be kind to me, I live this world without high expectation.
I remember people that have been good and I will not do any harm to other people. as simple as that.

All the bad things that happened later........It might be because I have done some bad things when I was young or in my previous life or just be it.

The kind people that I met overrun all the bad ones by thousand times, it is just a human trait that we only see the 2 bad things among the 98 great other things.

in whatever it is, try to be kind always..... I wish you well. 

Mettachittena,
Yustine H



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