About being with someone.....

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Some of my friends sometimes asked me to why they never see anything about my love story on my facebook.
First, is because I do not have anyone fixed one.
Second, is I dont feel comfortable to post it even I have one.

Why? I am not sure if he will like it or not, and Indonesian society is full of judgement. They will ask, who he is, what his job is, what his level of education is, uh.. tough!

It makes me think sometimes, if I am on the right way or not.... I mean, I keep doing something, dating, having fun, but I would say, I am not sure about what happens for the long term.

I think I dont have such lucky fate to be a housewife since I were young. to be married with some Indonesian rich family's son, who seems to has no idea on what he will do in the future with his father's business, getting birth and being a socialite and posting nice pictures at expensive restaurant.
I think I will have to work even if my husband is so damn rich. Not for competition but barely for my own sake of happiness.

If I were in Indonesia at my age and still having fun like this, I might have gotten lots of questions of why not getting married.... I probably will get depressed. hahaha

By living here, nobody cares... .except from another indonesian society here of course. 
I am not sure if they will care about my wedding afterwards either.... :p

but what can i o? it is not that I don't want to get married, but finding someone that makes you completely "fall" in love is so hard. I am not quite a materialistic girl, since I have my own job, but I wont get married with someone jobless. I wont make my life suffer just because I have reached the age of marriage based on other people's standard. 

I was quite worried about my conservative mom , what she thought about this. luckily, she said to me, if he wont make you happy, why should you get married to him? My mom has seen lots of real example of failures, even in our part of family. Marrying a doctor doesnt mean that he is a compassionate person. Marrying a kind but jobless man will lead you to a tough life you have to afford, plus your children later on.



I was once wrong to let the "almost perfect" guy passed by because of my stupid belief. 
But I learnt my lesson now. I think whatever meant to be, must be meant to be...

Just like my life now in Sweden, better than what I expect. :) Have a nice week ahead! Thanks for reading... :)

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