About being a wife

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Recently I just heard from my friend in Indonesia about her broken marriage...

She is married for 3-4 years... They have a 2 year-old baby....

Her husband left her at her parents' house now. She has no jobs, so she has to survive by being a single mom with some decent money from her husband that lives somewhere else.... I am not sure either if the money is enough or not.
The reason is : The husband wants her to get a job as well to support the family and another woman in their marriage life.

Let's take this as an imaginary story.... So noone would hurt or be hurt....
But I am pretty sure, this kind of story... it is not something very special... I bet so many women experienced this problem.... Not only in Indonesia, but all around the world.

I am not married yet, How am I supposed to understand this ?
I have a job that can fulfil my own needs, how could I tell her to get a job? I ill not do that.

To all those men who did this to your women,
 You deserve the lowest level of hell on this life and the afterwards.

First of all,
do you know how much sacrifice that a girl make when she agrees to get married?
(I am not married yet because I can not see from all those guys are worthy enough to compensate the awesome me :) ) She gave up everything, EVERYTHING....

Cant you see that?

Leaving her parents...
Accompanying you all the time...
Preparing you to the next level.... (All the things that seem small in order for you to take care the bigger ones)
Giving birth.....
Love you...
Not so aggressive for her career because she let you win the game....
Closing the chance what the future might bring to her...
Making rooms on her mind and heart ...for you...
and many more....

That is why I think, being a woman is a noble chance to be compassion.

Nobody will comment a bad dad, while mom is expected to be perfect, no matter if it's her first time.
What I want to say here is....

Forget that cinderella story that will make you think to wait for the handsome prince come to you with big castle and gold.
First, being your best self, so that you can stand up straight for your life. because noone will make sure your husband will do the same whole your life, unless you show your value by the time passes by...

It's not about being an arrogant woman, but about not giving your life in someone else's hand.

Because you are responsible of your own life.
A working mom does not mean she is not a care mom, a father is supposed to take the role as well!!!


I will encourage all the women to be able to stand up straight, for avoiding being a beggar in your own home.




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