The Answers to most of (my) " What if I had done it differently...."- questions

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Have you ever experienced a condition where you finally have to choose among several options that were not easy? Like both of them are the same good, but you know that you can only have one?
After that you picked one and in the middle of the journey, this thing comes to your mind :
"what if I had done it differently...?"

 If so....
I want to share a very good advice from Buddha that heals related with that question :


4 Advice from Buddha Sakyamuni

1) Whoever you meet, this person is destined to appear in your life.
That means nobody appears in your life by chance. Everyone around us, who interacts with us, is assigned with a mission. Maybe to teach us something, or to help us improve our current situation.

2) Whatever happens, it is the only event that could happen at that moment.
What we have experienced, is not possible to occur in any other manner, even the least significant details or events. The notion “if I had done it differently… the outcome could be different” does not exist. No matter what happens, it is the only event that could happen, and must happen in that way, so that we could learn from it and move forward. In life, every situation we experienced is in its perfect form, even though it does not meet our comprehension and expectation.

3) Whenever the event happens, it is the right timing for it to happen.
Every event begins at the most appropriate timing, neither earlier nor later. When we are ready, prepared to experience the wonderful moments in life, it is just there, all ready to begin.

3) Whatever that has happened, it is over and completed.
It is that simple. When events in life complete, they help us to progress and move forward. That is why we should thoroughly experience and enjoy events that have occurred and completed. The best way to handle them is to let go and move forward.

When you are sitting here and reading these advice, I believe it is more than pure coincidence.  If these advice touch your heart, it is because your karma has matured. You would understand that not a single snow flake falls in the wrong place by accident.
Be kind to yourself, love your existence and keep yourself happy.



I am in this condition right now then I remember this, I know that the question will keep coming and I will still be curious, but time will answer everything. there must be something beneath it.
Just enjoy the show! Cheers!
Location: Stockholm, Swedia

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