When Dreams Do Come True

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Beberapa hari lagi sebelum berangkat 10ribuan kilometer jauhnya...

 Months ago when I got the announcement, I felt happy 100%. Now, it's splitted into 50% nervous and 50% happy.

 But this is one of my top-five wishlists that I should be fulfilled. Being granted an International Scholarships for a Master Degree Study in a four-season country. Been competing with other 10.680 students worldwide, what to expect more?

Luckily, Papa dan Mama mengizinkan.Salah satu dari mereka tidak setuju pasti aku decline offernya. Anak mami memang. Tidak apa-apa. Tanpa restu mereka, aku tidak yakin akan diberi kelancaran untuk semua nantinya....

 They are such an amazing parent.

 They have no doubtly an old-fashioned way of thinking: Better marry this or that kind of guy, the age difference should not be x,y,z years of age, you can not eat while doing something, this year you should pray like this or like that, and many more... the more I remember, the funnier it gets. I was always asking why, but I never got the answer I wanted, but I do it anyway.

 Amazingly, they raise me up to be an independent woman. Stand on my own feet. They spoil me, but they know when to stop and give me lesson.  
Yes, it’s a scholarships, but it doesnt mean it’s zero fees. I still have to pay my personal needs which I admit as the biggest shopping arcade I have ever done so far. Weekend 1 : search for coats & clothes. Weekend 2 : buy for tickets. Weekend 3 : shopping for stationery . Weekend 4 : travel luggage + medicine. Weekend 5 : buy for boots + backpacks. Weekend 6: pay for housing + deposit for 3 months. Etc etc.  Thank God I could afford it without asking my parent’s money anymore. For me , kewajiban mereka cukup sampai menyekolahkan saya sampai S1 saja. S2 saya yang harus mengusahakannya sendiri. I challenge myself to do so.

Ternyata 3 bulan pindah kerja itu jalan yang sudah disiapkan satu paket untuk ini semua. Kadang aku tak habis pikir kok bisa demikian pas nya yah pengaturannya.  :D
3 years in Bogor-4 years in Bandung-Jakarta-Serpong has been my trial before this.
This time it’s a little bit different but I will also do my best not to make them worry.
I have to be responsible of what I choose.

Sebulan liburan di rumah, banyak waktu berpikir dan memperhatikan hal-hal detail atas apa yang terjadi sepanjang waktu 25 tahun ini. The more I remember, The more I realise that my life is only an accumulation of other people’s love, caring,  and mercy. One should be so proud that it’s only one’s effort to make it happen. The universe helps to make it happen. If there is not this, that wouldn’t be happened.

For my Heart Guru  ( Someone who teach me Buddha Dhamma from far-far away ) : Sami Neng Guang, Guru Gede Prama, Tsem Tulku. It’s a precious thing I could learn. 24 years I dont quite sure what I do as a Buddhist, Sami taught me what to do in Dhamma although I am still far from a proper one.

Family, friends and colleagues : as an Introvert I dont quite sure I’m a good one. But I remember the laughter we had together is really brighten up my days....

Last but not least: Papa dan Mama, dua orang yang paling kuhutangi budi dalam kehidupan kali ini.

Entah karma baik apa yang pernah ada, kalian berdua menyelamatkan kehidupan saya kali ini, mengenal Dhamma, merasakan manisnya kehidupan.  You are not a typical of parent I used to want, but you are the type I need. Mungkin jika saya setengah saja sebaik kalian dalam mengurus anak , anak saya sudah jauh lebih berbahagia dari apa yang dirasakan anak-anak lain saat ini. Kalian tidak menukarkan waktu kalian mengurus anak dengan bekerja....

Hope they all be fine.....

Mettachittena,
Yustine Hendrika











Location: Jakarta, Jakarta, Indonesia

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